We do not mention “Thank You” as frequently as we should. I am beginning to believe that “Thank You” is the most ignored expression on the planet. It is proper in almost any circumstance, and it is a superior reaction and a common expression of gratitude. There are certain situations in which we usually do not show our gratitude.
1: On Receiving Compliments
We often ruin compliments by devaluing the statement or acting excessively humble. On the inside, you would possibly assume that this will prevents you from showing arrogance or self-satisfaction. The problem is that by deflecting the praise of an honest compliment, you do not acknowledge the one who was nice enough to mention one thing. Simply saying “Thank You” fully acknowledges the person who made the compliment and allows you to enjoy the moment as well.
For example, if someone says “Your dress looks great” in a compliment, then instead of saying, “Oh, this old thing? I’ve had it for years,” you should try to say, “Thank you. I’m glad you like it”. Similarly, if someone says, “You killed your presentation today!” then try to answer like “Thank you. I’m happy it went well”, instead of saying, “Did I? I felt so nervous up there. I’m glad it looked alright”.
There is somewhat empowering about accepting a compliment completely. When you repel admiration, you can’t own it. When you say “Thank You,” you let the weight of the compliment sink in and become yours. Saying “Thank You” gives your mind permission to be built up by the compliments you receive. Getting compliments should be enjoyable, but we often ruin the experience. There’s no need to sabotage compliments that come your way. Accept them with grace even if they are hypocretin and enjoy the moment.
2: When you are late:
Being late is the worst. It is nerve-wracking for the one that is running late and disrespectful to the one waiting.
It might appear strange to give thanks to somebody for handling your trouble; however, that is precisely the correct response. The majority stumble in the door and say, “Sorry I am late.”
The problem is that this response still makes matters concerning you. Sorry, I’m late. The expression “Thank You” turns the tables and acknowledges the sacrifice the opposite person created by waiting. Thanks for waiting.
For example, you walk in the door 14 minutes late. Instead of saying, “So sorry, I’m late. Traffic was insane out there. Try to say, “Thank you for your patience.” When we make a mistake, Someone else often makes a sacrifice. Our default response is to apologize for our failure, but the better approach is to praise their patience and loyalty. Thank them for what they did despite your mistake.
3: On Receiving Helpful Feedback
Feedback may be beneficial; however, we tend to see it that way rarely. Whether or not it is an uncomplimentary performance review from your boss or an email from an unhappy client, the quality reaction is to induce defensive. The shame resulting from the correct response is to say, “Thank You quickly,” and use the knowledge to enhance.
For example, if Someone complains to you, saying, “I bought your product last week, and it already broke. I am not happy with this experience”. Instead of saying, “How did you use it? We made it very clear in our terms and conditions that the product is not designed to work in certain conditions”. Try to say, “Thank you for sharing your thoughts. Please know we are committed to becoming better. Can you share more details about the issue?”
Nobody likes to fail, but failure is just a data point. Respond to helpful feedback with thanks and use it to become better.
4: On Receiving Unfair Criticism
Sometimes criticism is not helpful to the slightest degree. It’s simply vindictive and means. I’ve written about a way to cope with haters antecedently. However, one of the most effective approaches is only to say thank you and move on.
When you give thanks to somebody for criticizing you, it straightaway neutralizes the ability of their statements. If it’s not an enormous deal to you, then it can’t grow into a more powerful argument.
For example, if Someone says, “This might be good advice for beginners, but anyone who knows what they are doing will find this useless.” Instead of giving justifications by saying, “Well, clearly, I wrote this for beginners. It might be a surprise, but everything is not written with you in mind”. Try to admit by saying, “Thank you for sharing your opinion. I’ll try to improve next time”.
Releasing the need to win every argument is a sign of maturity. Someone on the internet said something wrong? So what. Win the argument by the way you live your life.
5: When You’re Not Sure if You should Thank Someone.
When in doubt, say thank you. There is no downside. Are you honestly worried about showing too much gratitude to the people in your life?
“Should I send a Thank You card in this situation?” Yes, you should.
“Should I tip him?” If you don’t, at least say thank you.
Say thank you more often.
